65. Seeing Our Innocence & Listening Deeply

In this episode, we’re exploring our element of curiosity alongside the third aspect of deep listening which is “seeing the person’s innocence.” This can be a tough aspect considering what may be a more common tendency to listen with the lens of “seeing the other person’s problem” or “seeing the person’s solution.” Problem is, those lenses make it nearly impossible to listen well. We'll talk about the practices to overcome those obstacles and to help us listen with an intention that creates more open, effective, and fulfilling conversations.

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Links and Sources:

• Resilient Community  Find lots of resources to support you and you'll join a crew of inspiring people who are building their resilience and joy while also helping to keep our Joy Lab podcast in existence!
• Joy Lab Program (step-by-step practices to help you build and maintain the elements of joy in your life)
• More of our Curiosity pods: 
  • #3 Curiosity- Reshaping Your Brain
  • #15 How Can We Respond to Tragic Loss?
  • #16 The Surprising Benefits of Not Knowing 
  • #62 Easing Anxiety with Curiosity & the Power of Deep Listening
  • #63 Being Present with Yourself and Others
  • #64 Taking Charge of Your Attention
• Chemistry of Calm (Dr. Emmons' book referenced in this series)

• Relationships between measures of I- and D-type curiosity, ambiguity tolerance, and need for closure: An initial test of the wanting-liking model of information-seeking. Find it here.

• The Role of Attentional Control in the Relationship Between Mindfulness and Anxiety. Find it here.
• Neural mechanisms of attentional control in mindfulness meditation. Find it here.
• Attentional focus in endurance activity: new paradigms and future directions. Find it here.
• More on Martin Buber's philosophy